Goal "Spreading"

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As 2019 comes to a close, many people reflect on the previous year and consider areas in their life that they would like to improve in the New Year. A common goal is to improve diet and/or start exercising. Many people fall into the pitfall of setting too many goals at once that are a drastic change from their current lifestyle or routine. I have given considerable thought to how to increase the odds of making a permanent change when statistics indicate that most people give up on their resolutions by mid-February.

Consider this: Rather than trying to set multiple lofty goals that all kick off on January 1st, break them down to smaller goals and spread them out over the entire year. Let’s use the example of improving health and fitness. Pick 6 things that would improve your health profile by the end of the year, such as integrating a new fitness routine and improving your diet.

Your original goal might look something like this:

  • “I am going to implement a high intensity interval training program and move to a plant-based diet.”

You might be thinking: Hmm. I am discouraged already!

Instead, consider your health as a continuous process of improvement over many years, but this year you will start with something that could look like this:

  • January: Walk 30 minutes 3 – 5 times per week (never less than 3).

  • February: Keep walking. Add a goal to stop drinking soda and replace with water or unsweetened iced tea.

  • April: Keep walking/no soda. Add a goal to start reading food labels to begin being more mindful about ingredients. For example, you can try to start avoiding foods with artificial sweeteners and look for natural alternatives.

  • June: Keep walking/no soda/reading food labels. Add 15 minutes of abdominal exercises and 5 minutes of stretching to your exercise routine.

By setting smaller goals that are spread out over 12 months, it becomes less intimidating to try to make lifestyle changes, and you can build upon your positive progress throughout the year. When I was younger and would set lofty goals, I was determined to muscle through all of them at once. Sometimes I was successful, but other times I would have a sense of disappointment in myself when I would not reach all my goals.

Over the years, I adopted this gentler method to allow myself the entire year to attain those desired changes. To me, this method has been much more approachable. It allows me to focus all my intentions and energy on one change at a time, which results in a higher success rate in maintaining those changes. So this year, be bold and set stretch goals for yourself and give it your all, but try to focus all your energies on one change at a time!

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It's Time to Set Your 2020 Goals!

Rather than focusing on a single New Year’s resolution, consider reflecting and developing a more comprehensive plan for your future.  Annual goal-setting offers a lifelong method to fine-tune or chart a new direction for your life.  It is never too late to start over or change direction. 

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I encourage attention to “character” when goal-setting because I believe it is the keystone for all other areas of our overall health and well-being. Each of us have God given character strengths that we describe as “personality” or “temperament.”  Some people have natural social intelligence and zest; some have a lot of self-control and grit; some are very spiritual and wise. Regardless, if each of us does a personal inventory we will know which ones are our gifts, which ones we developed through our childhood and life experiences, and which ones we might want to strengthen. See a list of character traits here. With focus and attention, we can become solid in all of these areas. I believe you can and should practice strengthening character traits.

Life is full of distractions and curve balls. I believe the strength of our character, and a good sense of humor, is what gives us the tools to weather the storms of life. Strength of character is your foundation. It will drive the direction of your life to be balanced for the better good and not in the sole pursuit of what society or the media defines as success, which is typically wealth, fame, and personal gratification. Your character will be your compass and guide. Your other goals will help keep you on your path to those things that give your life purpose. Laughter will help keep things in perspective. 

At the end of the day it is about balancing all areas in your life. A strong character, healthy lifestyle, and focus on nurturing key relationships will build a strong foundation for attaining other goals. An aspiring career will suffer over time if adequate attention is not paid to one’s character, health, and continuing education. On the flip side, relationships may suffer if too much focus is on career and the pursuit of individual goals.  

And finally, resist the urge to set too many goals, otherwise you risk not accomplishing them. It is better to set a handful of well thought out impactful goals that you can achieve. Then make sure you put in place the system to support achieving your goals. Happy goal setting!

You can get started with your goal-setting for the new year by exploring my resources and templates within the Goal Setting section of my website here. Have fun and Happy New Year!

Annual Goal-Setting

The week between Christmas and New Year's is the perfect time to reflect on the current year and take stock of what is working for us and those areas that we would like to change. The annual goal-setting process should be an invigorating exercise. Each year offers us a fresh opportunity to make changes in the direction our life is heading. It offers us a lifelong process of renewal and optimism when looking to the future. Remember it is never too late to start over or change direction. 

I encourage a big focus on character because I believe it is the keystone for all other areas of goal-setting. I believe it is important to work on character traits and to develop the whole person as the foundation for all of life’s pursuits throughout our lives. My research in this area suggests that grit is one of the stronger predictors of success. I believe it is the foundation character trait along with self-control that all our goals and aspirations are built on. For without a healthy amount of grit and self-control or discipline we would lose focus and give up on our goals and dreams. It is never too late to take a personal inventory of our character traits and reinforce those that we already embody, and set personal goals to strengthen and practice those we want to embody. And yes, I believe you can and should practice character traits.

I believe that each of us have God given character strengths that we group under “personality” or “temperament.” Some people have natural social intelligence and zest; some have a lot of self-control and grit; some are very spiritual and wise. Regardless, if each of us does a personal inventory of the 24 character traits (from the New York Times Article, What if the Secret to Success Is Failure? by Paul Tough) we will know which ones are our gifts, which ones we developed easily throughout our childhood and life experiences, and which ones we might want to strengthen. Each of us possesses the ability to become solid in all of these areas. And the ones that are the most challenging will be our proudest accomplishments when we conquer them.

Life is full of distractions and curve balls. There will be many unexpected challenges. I believe the strength of our character is what gives us the tools to weather the storms of life  –  and there will be some. So I contend character strength is more important than academic and career accomplishments. Strength of character combined with our accomplishments is powerful. It will drive the direction of your life to be balanced for the better good, and not in the sole pursuit of what society or the media defines as success, which is typically wealth and fame.

You can get started with your goal-setting for the new year by exploring my resources and templates within the Goal Setting section of my website here. Have fun and Happy New Year!